Emotional connection makes women want sex. Emotional connection makes men want longtermrelationships.
Emotional connectionmakes men andwomen switch gender roles (see BECOMING A COUPLE13).
Individuals who use masculine sexuality (usually, but not always, men) want to have sex with
many partners. Individuals who use feminine sexuality (usually, but not always, women) want
long-term committed relationships. Emotional connection makes women switch to masculine
sexuality, and makes men switch to feminine sexuality.
A man using masculine sexuality shows off his social status, physique, and money to attract
women’s attention. But that’s all stereotyped gender roles can do (attract attention). Once he
has a woman’s attention, she’ll look for relationship skills, entertainment skills (e.g., a sense of
humor), and, above all, the emotional connection of "chemistry."
A woman using feminine sexuality shows off her youth and beauty to attract men’s attention. But
that’s all her stereotyped gender role can do. If they don’t emotionally connect, he’ll date her only
as long as he thinks he might get to have sex.
Be Seen in Different Venues
Make your suitor feel emotionally connected by letting him see you in a variety of situations.
E.g., volunteer with a non-profit organization, take a continuing education class, and participate
in a new sport. When a man approaches you in one venue, invite him to do the other activities
with you. If you met him in a business computers night class, suggest that he join you volunteering
with Habitat For Humanity on Saturday, or at a rock climbing class on Sunday.
He’ll see you using a variety of emotions. You may be confident and professional in the business
computers class, caring and nurturing with the non-profit organization, and scared–then
triumphant–climbing a cliff.
Emotional connectionmakes men andwomen switch gender roles (see BECOMING A COUPLE13).
Individuals who use masculine sexuality (usually, but not always, men) want to have sex with
many partners. Individuals who use feminine sexuality (usually, but not always, women) want
long-term committed relationships. Emotional connection makes women switch to masculine
sexuality, and makes men switch to feminine sexuality.
A man using masculine sexuality shows off his social status, physique, and money to attract
women’s attention. But that’s all stereotyped gender roles can do (attract attention). Once he
has a woman’s attention, she’ll look for relationship skills, entertainment skills (e.g., a sense of
humor), and, above all, the emotional connection of "chemistry."
A woman using feminine sexuality shows off her youth and beauty to attract men’s attention. But
that’s all her stereotyped gender role can do. If they don’t emotionally connect, he’ll date her only
as long as he thinks he might get to have sex.
Be Seen in Different Venues
Make your suitor feel emotionally connected by letting him see you in a variety of situations.
E.g., volunteer with a non-profit organization, take a continuing education class, and participate
in a new sport. When a man approaches you in one venue, invite him to do the other activities
with you. If you met him in a business computers night class, suggest that he join you volunteering
with Habitat For Humanity on Saturday, or at a rock climbing class on Sunday.
He’ll see you using a variety of emotions. You may be confident and professional in the business
computers class, caring and nurturing with the non-profit organization, and scared–then
triumphant–climbing a cliff.
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