POSITIVE REALATIONSHIP

THE IMPORTANCE OF INTERPERSONAL SKILLS
Most of them self-explanatory or elaborated on later in this chapter.
1. Selfishness
2. Loack of courtesy
3. Inconsiderate behavior
4. Not meeting commitments
5. Rude behavior
6. Lack of integrity and honesty
7. Self- centeredness
(A person all wrapped up in himself makes a pretty small package)
8. Arrogance
(An arrogant person is content with his opinion and knowledge. That will guarantee him perpetual ignorance)
9. Conceit
(Since nature abhors a vacuum, she fills empty heads with conceit)
John bragged, my son gets his intelligence from me. His wife replied, I am sure he does because I have still got mine”
Negative attitude
Closed mind
Lack of listening
Suspicious nature
Lack of respect for value (low morals)
Lack of discipline
Lack of compassion (cruelty is a sign of weakness)
Impatience
Anger(temper gets a person in trouble and ego keeps him there)
Manipulative behavior
Touchy nature
Inconsistency
Unwillingness to accept the truth
Past bad experience
An uncaring attitude (being ignored is not a god feeling it shows a lack of concern)
Greed – is like sea water. The more you drink, the thirstier you get.
This probably is not an all –inclusive list. Most of us may have some of the characteristics mentioned above. Some may have more of one than the other. The objective is to evaluate and adjust course in those.
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN EGO AND PRIDE
The biggest hurdle in building a positive relationship is Ego .Ego is self intoxicating. Ego is negative pride resulting in arrogance. Healthy pride is a feeling of the pleasure of accomplishment with humility. Ego gives a swollen head while pride gives a swollen heart. A big head gives a big headache whereas a big heart gives humility.
No matter what the size of person‘s accomplishments are, there is never an excuse for having a big head. Pride yes big head, no.
EGO- THE “I KNOW IT AL” ATTITUDE
To an egocentric person, the world begins end and revolves around him. An egotist can be funny by default. A boss asked one of his employee said real badly. I have been praying to god for one. The boss replied, you are not going to get it because you went over my head an egotist talk and looks down on others.
It is important to understand the distinction between these two words.
Selfishness is negative and destructive. It destroys relationship because it is based on negative values. It believes in the win – lose principle. Self interest is positive .it welcomes prosperity, peace of mind , good health and happiness . Self –interest believes in win –win situations.
Envy/Jealousy- Crab Mentality